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This issue will take about 3 minutes to read. Issue #05
External or Internal Cues to Eat
Listen to the Real Expert
Kelly's Internet Radio Interview

External or Internal Cues to Eat

I need to ask an expert.

  • How much should I eat?
  • What should I eat?
  • How often should I eat?
  • What should I avoid?

Most of us have grown up listening to experts tell us what is good for us. That is valuable. We can get lots of good information from experts. But, it can be a problem too, especially when it comes to feeding ourselves.

When you're on a program or on a diet, you must give constant attention to following the rules. You are listening to external cues to eat or not to eat. You often perceive yourself as 'on' or 'off' the program. This causes deprivation and bingeing. There is a better way. Listen to the most knowledgeable expert of all...

I will listen to the real expert on what I need, ME.

  • When am I hungry?
  • When am I satisfied?
  • Am I using food to meet some other need?

It will take practice to tune in to your internal cues. It is worth the effort. What would happen if you ate when you were hungry and stopped when you were satisfied? What would happen if you used food sometimes to meet emotional needs, but developed other coping skills most of the time?

You are the foremost expert on what you need and how you feel. It is fine to enlist other experts as you gather information. Make sure you learn to tune in and listen to the most knowledgeable expert you have, yourself!



When you participate in a self-help group, when you take a fitness class, when you talk to a therapist, at each of these times there is only one real expert on you in the room. That expert is YOU! Teachers, instructors, counselors are consultants that you hire in order to get ideas and information. You are in charge of trying out the new things that you have learned and deciding if they work for you. Every exercise, whether it is physical, emotional, or intellectual, is just something for you to experiment with. Tune in to yourself. How does it feel? Does it seem useful? Does it cause a problem? You decide. You are the expert on you. Nobody else in the entire world knows what it is like to live in your body, in your world. It is important to have good advisors and consultants. But in the end, you need to make choices for yourself.

That is why I don't offer a 'program' for healthy living and fun fitness. Instead, I offer a set of choices, tools, exercises, and insights. Each person will try these options in a different order and for a different length of time. Each person will select what works for them and what does not. No two people will choose the same path.

In order to listen to the expert within yourself you will need to increase your awareness of who you are and what you feel. I suggest a tool for developing this awareness. For now, I call it "Your Own Book". You can print out this eNewsletter, or get a blank book or a notebook that feels good to you. Select a time in your day when you will regularly write in Your Own Book. You decide if it is morning, noon, or night. Find a place where you can sit down and tune in. As the weeks go by, in our eNewsletter you will find several suggestions for possibilities of what you might write and what questions you may choose to answer for yourself. You will find more options for your individual healthy living process in "Your Online Workbook" It is up to you to choose the sequence and content of Your Own Book. You may choose to ignore some questions or topics. You may put the last one first and the first one in the middle. You may write on one topic each day, or you may stay on one topic for weeks. You're the expert.


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