If I Can Do It, You
I read about people who preach weight loss. I hear hysterically
energetic gurus of dieting and fitness talk about constant life-long
battles with appetites, compulsive eating, and with food. The audience
is told by the laughing and crying guru, "I am in the same struggle
as you are. I have the same compulsions as you do. I am a compulsive
overeater too. I have been my entire life and I always will be. If I
can do this, then so can you." Time and time again the weight loss experts
say they want you to join them in their struggles. They are fighting
the 'good fight' against food and appetite. They want you to join them
in this battle.
I am saying something profoundly
different to you.
I do NOT want you to join me in a lifelong battle against food or against
I want you to find peace with food, develop an active lifestyle, appreciate
and get on with living your life in the body you have!
I invite you to join me in my RECOVERY from body loathing
and weight loss anxiety. I invite you to join me in ending compulsive
eating instead of controlling it. I recommend that you participate in
the fun and enjoyable problem-solving process that will help you live
your healthy life. How your body changes and responds to your improved
healthy lifestyle is not under your control. That is a complicated process
that not even the most advanced science has unraveled. Perhaps the way
your body changes and responds to your healthy lifestyle is in the hands
of something bigger than you. You do have the power to influence your
lifestyle and your attitudes. I invite you to join me in influencing
your lifestyle and your attitudes.
Yes, I invite you to join me in this enjoyable struggle
to take care of yourself. If I can do it, you can too. You can respond
to feeling better. You can accept yourself, care for yourself, and enjoy
living your life. It is a long process. It feels good. I invite you
to feel good.
Self-Care Heals Past
An important psychological effect of your self-care is
that you can FEEL that you have put yourself at the top of the list
of those who receive your care and tending. When you tend yourself in
your present day life, you help to heal yourself from past emotional
wounds. Everyone, no matter what kind of childhood they lived through
(even an "ideal" childhood, like those in storybooks), has had times
when they were hurt because they experienced unmet needs. Some were
lost in a crowd of a large family, some had parents who worked all the
time, some just needed more attention, some suffered abuse. These experiences
result in emotional wounds. In your past, the person who was responsible
to take care of you sometimes neglected or hurt you.
In the present YOU are responsible
to take care of you.
How you treat yourself NOW
will either continue the cycle of hurt,
or will promote the cycle of healing.
You have the choice to continue life with unmet needs
and continue to hurt yourself, OR you can choose to tend and care for
yourself and heal. You can heal past wounds by giving yourself what
you need, by taking care of yourself.
Every time you nurture yourself
by meeting your basic needs,
you heal yourself a little bit from past neglects.
As you go through this process of building a healthy life
for yourself, you are doing much more than improving your health. You
are putting yourself at the top of the list of those who deserve your
care. You are experiencing that you deserve your care. Good for you!
A message from my friends at Size
With Style ...
The Ultimate Spa Getaway for Plus-Size
Is your body feeling neglected? Are your feet calling out for a vigorous
rub or a pretty toe polishing? Are your hands desperately seeking a
tub of warm paraffin? Fast and furious work schedules combined with
the pressures of family and other obligations often blind us to our
own needs. Pampering not a priority, you say? Superficial and selfish,
you insist? Think again.
Treating your body to the luxury of spa treatments translates into
mental and spiritual health as well. And your improved well being can
only benefit those around you. If you are the typical American woman,
you are placing the needs of work and family above your own. This path
of "selflessness" almost invariably leads to stress and resentment.
We've all been there.
Comfort your body, mind and soul. http://www.sizewithstyle.com/spafrm.htm